To all Christians seeking love.
I’ve met so many men who cannot understand nor respect my decision to only “date” Christian men. I never would imagine that grown men would beg, question and pester the living day lights out of you, when you reject them.
I was even called a fanatic once because of my view. ( His aim was to hurt me with that term. But a Jesus fanatic ? Me? Guess I’m doing something right.)
Change my view
Once I spent about two weeks politely explaining to “R” why I could not date him. I explained that I was a Christian, my views on being unequally yolked, what I look for in a man..Boy did it become annoying. From that situation I realized that a non-believer would never be able to understand my views. It’s similar to describing colors to someone who was born blind. It’ll sound nice but be difficult to comprehend.
Support my view
I’ve heard the :” I would support your beliefs.” “I would accept you as you are.” ” I wouldn’t try to change you.”
My thoughts: Ok dude, so stop attempting to force me to date you.
Of course we all want support in most things. But when you are a Christian female, you do not want mere support in your courtship. The man that you are courting will be your husband. (That’s the entire point of a courtship) I can never imagine being the only Christian in a relationship, where my head, the husband is in the world. Imaging it is heart breaking and painful.
Then what about the children? I would raise children trying to teach them about Christ, show them Christ and encourage them to experience Christ. Then they’ll look at Daddy who plays on the sidelines. No thanks.
Boys and girls we should seek Christ centered relationships. Period.
Compromise
“Don’t compromise yourself, you’re all you’ve got .”
Please take care of yourself, stand on a solid ground. Men come and go, women come and go. If an uberly attractive, successful, ambitious, non- God fearing person tried to “date” you..walk away. There’s no stability in an unequally yolked relationship, spare yourself the heartache. Also be obedient. God’s laws are there to protect us. These are laws of love.
Pray for your future/husband wife. It doesn’t matter if you are single, pray. Do not confirm, do not give in. There are tons of people in the world and God has a special person out there for you. It is crucial for you to be equally yolked.Trust in Jesus.
And now it’s time for some scripture.(You have all rights to not believe me. Dive into the Word)
Reblogged this on Laws of Christian Dating.
I’ve totally been there. Thanks for being bold enough to keep your standards and refuse to compromise! A while ago I finally ended a rather long-term relationship with a guy who definitely didn’t share my passion for Christ. It was the scariest thing I ever did…and also, the BEST. Once I was out of the relationship, I realized he’d been holding me back. My faith grew enormously, because I was no longer being disobedient to God! Two months later I met an incredible guy who encourages me in my faith daily, and we share the same morals/standards/ideals. It’s so awesome. Unequally yoked= so not worth it.
You’re totally right Jessica! I experienced the same thing as you.(I think that I blogged about it somewhere) Thank God that we were both bold enough to step out of that bad situation, that we were apparently addicted to. Also thank God for not leaving us in that situation..perfect love huh?:-)
God bless you
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