So you met a nice guy or gal and you are into them. And it seems that they are also into you. You guys text, call each other,man you even Skype! You tell all of your friends about him/her and how much you like them. You cannot wait for your relationship to blossom and grow into a beautiful everlasting, non-withering flower. BUT wait you have no clue what their feelings are towards you.
Maybe this individual told you that they like to start off as friends because they tend to move too fast. There is nothing wrong with that. But if you do not intend on being this person’s lifelong friend, there is an issue. This is my friend’s story:
We both mentioned that we tend to move too fast. So I want to be his friend. In the past I felt like I had an agenda for my relationships and this ran them away. Also he told me that he is not in the right place for a relationship.
So you practically invest special time in this person. You feel like you are in a relationship with him/her but you are just a friend. The problem here is this person is playing games with you. A man/woman should have intentional desires towards a woman that he is interested in. One should not string the other along. A woman should let a man know if she is interested.(if he did not pursue you first) If he is interested, he will pursue you. If he is not, he should let you know.
The friendship that my dear friend has is false. The intentions between these two individuals are undeclared. Therefore this leads to confusion on one side or both sides. This confusion often leads to pain. You are practically allowing this individual to have their cake and eat it too.
I am not ready for a relationship.
Ladies and Gentlemen, when someone tells you that they are not ready for a relationship, believe them. Maybe that is their nice way of saying ” I am not interested in you”, ” I never want to be in a relationship with you” or just that ” I am not ready for a relationship”. You cannot do anything to persuade someone to be with you. And if you do, they would most likely eventually leave.
Forget the movies. You do not have to play hard to get, vice-versa to gain the love of someone. Be genuine, be real , have some integrity. Please.
If someone is interested in you, they will let you know. If not, move on. Let us live an intentional life. Relationships are meant to be intentional and purposeful.
Christians we are meant to love each other with integrity. As the body of Christ we are focused on helping others to advance towards the Kingdom. We are not here to play games with our brothers and sisters. We are not here to hurt others and lead them on. Let us love each other. Our actions reflect our hearts.